I like being on my own, I like it just me and my daughter during the day. I don’t often wish I had Mommy friends, or as I’ve seen it called a ‘momtaurage’ – Ick!
I did think it would be good for me to meet other Moms though. So I made an attempt at meeting them. Its harder then you think. I took my daughter to swimming lessons, made no friends there. I went to a couple of baby/toddler groups, and was met with this:
Literally silence. Not a word was said to me. I didn’t even get a sarcastic smile. I kept trying, I must have introduced me and my daughter at least 20 times, and used every word for Hello in the dictionary. But no one wanted to talk to me. I don’t know why. I’m not hard to talk to, I don’t have a scary face, and I had a really cute and happy baby. How could you not at least say ‘hi’, or do a silly wave to my daughter, who was beaming at everyone. I left wondering if I had in fact turned invisible! I went to a different group, same story. One time I had someone else come with me – she is SUPER chatty, and we still got no response. So instead we sat there self conscious and listening to the other women talk in graphic detail about their birth stories. Nothing wrong with that, just feels a bit intrusive to have no choice but to listen, when you don’t know them. So it was official – I wasn’t invisible, just no one wanted to talk to us. Other Moms can just be clicky to an extreme. I don’t know how they can be, surely they were all the nervous new Mom at some point?
I have since met a couple of other Moms (not at baby/toddler groups!) who sadly have all had the same or similar experiences. One tried groups for several years, before she gave up. Me I only managed a couple before I couldn’t take it any more.
Has anyone else experienced this? Or do I just live in a really bitchy corner of the world?!